We all know that good meditation requires a focused mind and the ability to ignore all distractions, inner and external.
Can you ignore all the thoughts that pop up into your mind the moment you start to meditate?
What about all the memories that start marching in a procession before your eyes, taking your attention away from the meditation?
All kinds of feelings also arise when you begin to meditate, attracting your attention and disturbing your focus. You remember things that people said to you or about you. You remember your problems and worry about things you have done or did not do.
All this takes your mind away from the meditation.
There is an important ingredient that can help you meditate better and deeper and avoid distractions, and that is emotional detachment.
What is emotional detachment? It is the ability to stay calm and avoid being emotionally upset in the various situations of your life. It is the ability not to take things too personally, and avoid emotional agitation and being emotionally manipulated.
Detachment plays a vital role in helping you meditate better and be more focused. It helps you ignore all the thoughts and feelings that rise during meditation. You will not have to struggle with a stream of feelings and thoughts that distract your attention.
The kind of emotional detachment I am talking about has nothing to do with being indifferent and keeping away from people. I am talking about being calm and in control of your mind and feelings in agitating situations, and also while meditating.
By developing a certain degree of emotional detachment you will not be distracted by thoughts and emotions during meditation, and you will therefore, progress faster and deeper.
Actually, the better you are able to meditate, the more trained you are with meditation, the more emotional detachment you will be able to display, since emotional detachment is a byproduct of meditation.
Do you know why a regular practice of meditation makes you more balanced, calm and undisturbed by external factors? This is because meditation develops in you a certain degree of emotional detachment. It is one of the byproducts of meditation.
You can develop a certain degree of detachment directly, not as a byproduct. Actually, it is something that can be learned and practiced. This will make your progress with meditation faster. It will take you a long way toward being able to silence your mind and experience higher inner awareness.
Do you allow other people to transfer their stress and lack of peace to you? Do you allow negative thoughts, emotions and memories to make you stressed and unhappy? Learn how to let go and be free and happy.
Tips for Detachment:
- Don’t react immediately when you hear something you don’t like. Wait a while, count to 10 or take a few deep breaths.
- Try to be more aware of thoughts that run through your mind. You need to be the gatekeeper of your mind, not letting in thoughts that you don’t want. This is not an easy thing to do, but doing so repeatedly, would eventually develop the ability select the thoughts you accept into your mind.
- Learn to let go. Release your past and your memories and stop letting them control your life. Hammer it into your mind that dwelling on the past will get you nowhere; it will just tie you down.
- Focus on the present moment. The past is gone, and the future is not here. What really exists is the present moment. Learning to live in the present moments clears the mind of a lot of unnecessary stuff.
- Don’t take anything too personally. It doesn’t matter what people say or think about you, as long as you are trying to behave in the best way you can. If you take to heart what people say, or wonder what they are thinking of you, you will start worrying, getting upset, angry and agitated.
The calmer and more balanced you can be during your day-to-day life, the calmer and more detached you would be during meditation.